a wrap of last month

in a blink of an eye, i've become someone's wife. yep, i'm already married! thank God everything went fine. from the church and the ceremony to the party. everything was marvelous. everybody kept talking about it until today. even some people want to copy ours. hahaha...and talking about my wedding, this wedding isn't any wedding, since i'm a pastor's daughter and my mom in laws has a lot of acquitances, sooo.. the number of the wedding guests are a lot. thank God our EO are marvelous. though there were frictions here and there, but we survived though. they were professional. it's worth the money. for sure. oh.. and by the way, our EO is MAJESTIC.

well, for those who can't come to our wedding, here's the details...

my morning started at 3 am. yep.. gotta woke up early and headed to the salon, HOUSE OF LEA. unfortunately, some misfortune happened. the guy who supposed to pick me up were late because of a flat tire. he were late 30 minutes, but since our schedule included those little misfortune like that, so it didn't disturb our time schedule. but at the salon, another misfortune happened again. there were blackout right exactly after i 've arrived. but it didn't last long. thankfully.. hahaa.. and then i get my face and hair done. here the funny parts. since we were agreed to do a western style, we weren't supposed to see each other until at the church, but i think our "followers" were a little bit behind, so when i was down the stair, there he was.. at the bottom of the stair. hahhaa.. but luckily, i haven't changed my clothes, so he just saw my hair and make up done.

after a chaos in the salon, we were back to the hotel to take pictures and record for the morning clip. i felt stupid though. we were acting this and that for a few minutes, no script. and that's why i felt stupid. we had to look like we were having conversations while smiling all the time. it's kinda difficult, and they often reminded us to smile again and again. hahaa.. thank God, our photographer had a lot of ideas to crack a laugh from us. by the way, his name is JONAS from RECORDANCE. and after shots are taken and video are recorded, we were headed to church. thankfully, we chose an alphard, it's big enough so it didn't squeeze my gown too much.

since the bride team arrived earlier than the groom team, we had to wait until all the groom team arrived. some people have arrived though and curious enough to see us. i think i had the most photographers on site, since many volunteered to take pictures as gift instead of money or things. feels like a celebrity for the day. hahaha.. and so the ceremony began. since we only practiced the entrance for couple times, everyone were nervous that something would go south. thankfully, despite a few mistakes in the name calling, the entrace were okay. after the usual thing, we headed to the stage for holy communion. since i refused to have like what ko guan had before, so om an just called a few people to say one or two words as advise for us. but then at the holy communion, since my dad's guest mostly pastors, so om an called every pastors in the room to join us in the holy communion. you might imagine, how crowded the stage were. all i could see was black suit all around. hahaha.. felt like band of brothers. the funny part is, after all is over, om handono told us that one of the congregation member told him that he wanted a ceremony like us. but he replied that this was a special occasion, hahahaa... too bad for him..

after the ceremony, we had a lot of agenda. started from the marriage registration, photo taking, cinciu and stuff. luckily we could eat. but we couldn't meet every one who came to our party at the church. and then we had photo session at the majapahit hotel, as compliment from GRAND CITY, our afternoon party venue. i've already exhausted since my gown, even though it's lighter than other gown, but still, it's pretty heavy. and my heels.. my feet were started to killing me. but i had to endure, one down, one more to go. so we headed back to the grand city and waited for the wedding dance rehearsal and the touch up.

we both were nervous since we only practiced once and then we practiced once more ourselves. and there was the marlupi great mother, hahaha.. she scolded me for not being gentle and flowy and confidence. hehehe.. but her advice was right. she's the expert after all. and then, the party began. we were to exhausted and nervous so we just let it be. let the EO to take care it all. we just followed their direction. several comments were nice. they liked the orchestra, DAVID ALL STARS really good. their first song especially. my head couldn't stop nodding following the rhythm. some like RBYKA and her angel tattoo on her back. the star of the night probably FRANS SISIR. most of the pastors like him. even though no bad comments, but no appraisal for IKA PUTRI either. The MC were polite as we requested, but not too boring. we really thank INDRA HERLAMBANG and OPIE for doing it accordingly our requests. and the cute kids from MARLUPI.

talking about the kids, i was pretty amazed by them. there was a misunderstanding about our wedding dance, but the kids were so good. after a few directions, they could dance the new formation quickly. and talking about the video, once the morning clip was played, no one kept eating. everyone was watching the video. even us. hahaha.. pretty amazing what PRESTIGE did though. i had goose bumps watching it. heehee.. it really worth the money. ohh.. and i forgot to mention the amazing decorations from STEVE DECOR. some of my friends told me it was amazing. and not to mention the additional effect of lighting and sound from LASIKA and effect works from FANTASYWORK. and not forgetting TOSCA USHERETTES for guiding our guests to their table. i heard no complaint about them, so i guess they've done a great work. oh, and about the cake, i always said that i didn't want the usual spiku cake, which is yellow and chocolate cake, so when we had to fed each other, one got the yellow one, and the other got the chocolate one. since we're both like chocolate, i always joked that our wedding cake had to be a all chocolate one, so we won't quarrel about it on stage. thankfully, ANGIE's CAKE arranged it to be chocolate cake! without me asking them. hahaha..

about after party, the most wanted things are our souvenirs, which is a animal figurine night lamp. there were 5 kinds of them, so people could choose if there were still available stocks. the animals are cute.. too bad since there were many guests, there were none left for me T.T even we had to give the sample we had before the final product. aiyaaa.. i guess LIGHTCRAFT's work are pretty good.

once again, i thank every one that's involved in my wedding preparation and D-day.. thank you for your help. and i'm sorry i couldn't thank each and every one of you in person. we really appreciate all you hard works. God bless you all.. thank you for making our dreams come true.

fairy godmother, give me a dress ..

last couple weeks, i was struggling to find the right wedding dress for me. last month, we've tried several dresses, and i was interested in this mermaid gown. but unfortunately, there were another couple that also interested in that dress. so since they chose it first, i have to wait for them to decide whether or not they'll take the dress. and the marketing assistant who helped me to choose my gown told me that there was another dress for me to try, but i have to wait since they were preparing it for shipping to Jakarta. and it was it. i have to wait until 2 weeks ago. since i have to wait, i asked around how to pick the right gown.

personally, i don't like those big gown and full of bling2 stuff, but if i chose too simple gown, my mother in law will be pissed since she wanted it to be awesome, since i have this huge hall where the party is held. but i wouldn't decline a wonderful dress if it makes me looks amazing. so i started asking questions. some vote for the mermaid dress, some vote for another dress. but couple of my dearest friend suggested me to try for another gown. try as many as i can.. but unfortunately, i'm the kind of person that's difficult to make a choice if there were many options to go.

so, since the assistant thought that i could try more, i postponed my decision and decided to wait and try some more. i asked here and there for advice and put it into mind. this is once in a lifetime choice, so i don't want to just listen to what everybody's saying, but i also don't want to push my ego and not listening to what tothers' saying. and most importantly, i begged God to give me the proper dress and the right one in the right time.

so here i am.. two weeks ago i tried some more, and although my heart's still favor that mermaid dress, i also like the dress that i have to wait from jakarta. i turned out to be a A-line ballgown one, but enough bling2 on the body part but just scattered pieces here and there on the dress. it fit me perfectly and it went well with the bolero that i tried. so since it's pretty time limit, we decided to go for the second dress. this one is all in one dress. it's a big ballgown and has enough bling that my mother in law fond of, but also a light dress that i fond of. my mom and my sisters think it's great, and my best friend couldn't agree more.

so for those in misery, here are my few tips:
1. try some types of gown first, the a-line, ballgown, mermaid, and decide which one complement your body type. try some different fabric too.. since you have to adjust the weight. tulle is lighter than sateen. so try which one you can bear since you have to wear it all day long. and asked the expert which one that complement you, since they are the expert, what they say are probably true. which color to go is also important since you have to synchronize it with the decoration and the theme of your party.
2. try some more and take pictures. ask advice and comments from your dearest one! your husband might be clueless about fashion, but males has some sense too when it comes to our appearance. they can help you choose since he can see which one that make you shine! and don't forget about your family and friends. just sample some of your closest friend and ask their opinion.
3. put into consideration where your party will be held. although i like simple dress, but since i have a huge ballroom for my party, it's a big no-no for no train dress since people might having difficulty to spot you in that huge room. if you're having an outdoor party, a simple one is the best option for you.
4. don't just think that you have to be shiny.. those tiny jewels and crystals sewed into the gown will increased the gown's weight. and it's killing me! that's why i don't like too much bling2.
5. if you wanted to wear a bolero, try it also when you try your dress. some neckline don't complement with bolero. so be careful!
so....happy playing gown girls! believe me, although it's stressing, but i do like trying different gowns. although i am clueless at first, but trying more and more make me know which one that i like and which one that i resent. i like the feeling of being a princess for one day. and put into your mind, whatever gown you choose, you will be a rockstar on that day!

wed tips

ahh..many people said that there will be a lot of quarrels and disagreements. i kinda find out it to be true, but in my case, it's not that bad. so, i guess, i'll share mine. the first and most important thing is : just choose one head to lead all the preparations. i guess being clueless is an advantage. i think most disagreements results from two heads trying to force each desire to be true. so i guess, one must give in and cooperate. in my case it's easy, since i have no dream about getting married, i also don't know what to expect in my party. i don;t know what the decorations will be. what theme. what colors . (especially that.. since i'm color freak.) soo...thankfully, my groom to be had a theme in his mind. and everything process from that idea. only ONE idea. not combination between two ideas. even though i get to say "yes and no", but since mostly it's his, so everything is easier. all i do is just sit there and listen, and then interrupted when i disagree.

so people, the way to minimize disagreement is to have one door policy. it applies for everything. even in family. he asked about what his family wants, and then after getting one idea from his family, we combine it with my family' idea. soo..so far, it's the best strategies. 

diary of a doc bride

actually it's kinda late to start this "diary of a mad bride" blog..but better late than never... i guess..

i've heard that during the preparations, it's normal to be a freaking-mad bride. but since i'm no normal girl, i don't grow up dreaming to be a bride someday. i never imagine i will try the white gown. i never imagine to be married..but here i am. so thank God i have a substitute for this madness. i mean, since the bride have no idea at all about a wedding party, thankfully my husband-to-be is the one that has dream about the wedding dream. yep..this time it's the groom that dreamt about walking down the aisle, not the bride, hahaha..

so, the first thing is setting the date. since we think everyday is a good day, so we just set the month due to weather consideration. the next on the list is getting the venue. since we've already been late in deciding the date, so we had to compromise. we want the Saturday, so we looked for the venue that is available during the first Saturday. after deciding the place, the next plan is getting an EO, since we don't want to  troubled with the preparations. we just said what we wanted about the wedding, and then it's their job to fill in the blanks. so we have to find an EO that could work efficiently and do almost everything for us without disturbing us.

since the first three important things on our list has been decided, we started to fill in the blnaks. wedding gown and bridal gown, MC, contributing artists, bands, decoration, video and photo, invitations, even the souvenir. even though not all has been decided, but most of it has been decided. so i guess it's pretty good since we've just been slightly behind schedule. now it's only the little details to be discussed.

sooo... i guess probably i won't be the mad bride, but who knows? it's just the beginning.

did you hear the bells?

i'm getting married. for real. arrrrgggghhhh... sialnya, ternyata persiapan itu sebajek. probably, we're the most clueless client in the entire Surabaya for that EO. hahahhaa...

so, since we're both first born, so both our parents have no idea what to do. so the wise move here is to choose an EO that will help us. at the first EO, no problem at all since she only offered us about her service and explained to us about the price and stuff. but at our third EO, he probably will slap his forehead because of our cluelessness. probably i'm the most clueless bride he's ever met. i know, probably every girl in this entire world has a dream about getting married and being a bride one day. unfortunately, that dream never came to me. since i was little, i never dreamt about being a bride. more over when i grew up. i hate wedding party. i hate to dress up to attend a wedding party. and i have no clue what to expect in my wedding party. how great!

soooo... sekarang waktunya pusing. karena tadi di EO yg barusan kita datengin, dia dengan semangat menjelaskan ttg konsep acara yg akan jadi peer kita berikutnya setelah kita memutuskan deal dengannya. mulai dr konsep pinginnya kayak apa, sampe palet warna. konsep probably classic or simple... tapi palet warna??? that will probably hard to answer. since i'm so fond of colors. everytime i go to ace hardware, i end up staring at all those colors pallette back in the paint stuff. hahahaha.. dia bisa pingsan kalo tau... entah deh, ntar akire pilih warna apaan. apalagi kan ntar yg mutusin bkn aku doang.

and then masalah baju. OMG... kenapa sih wedding dress is sooooooo heavyyyyy....i guess that seharusnya, all the brides are not supposed to do diet before they tried their dress. bahkan menurutku, nyoba baju pengantin sering2 justru bakal jadi exercise yg efektif saking abote..heavy is problem number one. problem number two: why it has to be so bling2 and all the ruffles, beads and crystals, all those layers?? why can't it be simple? siale pas aku komentar gitu pas ke salah satu salon, mbak'e dengan enteng njawab gini: ya jangan to ce...ntar lek gitu, isa2 pengantine kalah ngejreng ama tamune. wong tamune semua pasti yo bling2..lek pengantine polosan lak isa kalah.. duengngnggggg... what's wrong with those people?? *sigh* itu baru baju, belon soal make up seng kudu tahan nyaris 24 jam itu. mateng wes...itu ntar mbersihine piro suwe???? oh nooo..pas dulu make up buat wisuda ama pelantikan ae udah kayak didempul piro lapis. bersihine ae ampe 3-4 kali, ampe rasae perih ga karuan. pas ting jing kemaren jg gitu. mana pas kmrn itu aku kalah ama seng ndandani. for the first time i wore fake eyelashes. padahal dulu 2 x dandan ga pake bulu mata palsu jg gpp. taruhan berapa ntar juga pas di make up buat merit jg ga boleh lek ga pake bulu mata palsu. adohhhh... padahal bulu mata palsu itu abotttt... nggarai mata ngantuk ga isa melek ae. grrrr.. that's no invention, but suffering.

so i guess, dear all grooms, you should know what kind of torture that you bring to your brides when you asked her to marry you, so you should be understanding when she changed into that angry and moody creature, that you have no idea where it came from. and you should be understanding when she's all tired and hard to please since she had to please everyone, not just her dream but also both parents dream. all you have to do is find a best man, find a nice tux and be clean and shiny and be there on time. while she had to wake up very early at dawn, getting her make up and dress ready and then smiling tirelessly through the entire day... all those suffering, just for that one special day. so be understanding all ye' grooms..